Divorce can be a long and drawn out process and sometimes it can seem to have no end. If you and your spouse are going to have a divorce and one or the other of you does not agree to the divorce, then it is considered contested and that means both you and your spouse will need your own, separate, legal representation. This is important to avoid any conflict of interests. The two attorneys should not be affiliated in any way outside of both being law professionals. They cannot be in the same firm.
Maybe your spouse is not going to choose as wisely as you do, but perhaps they are, so you need to prepare yourself for the worst and hire a good divorce attorney Norfolk area residents have trusted for this area of law over many years. With trusted services, usually come good results. With a divorce, you are not only looking at attaining a separated and single status again, you are also dividing up assess of various kinds and potentially dealing with custody and visitation issues for your kids.
As adults, it is most responsible for you and your spouse to consider the kids first during this divorce. It is already well-known and documented that children who come from broken homes suffer more trouble in school and may develop relationship problems. This is not to mention all the other effects it has on the mind which we have yet to discover. The only antidote for this is to be aware and keep the “battles” behind closed doors with attorneys present.
In addition, it may be good to consider some counseling for the kids too. It has been shown to help. As long as you and your spouse are not making the divorce a nightmare on the kids, it can also be easier on the both of you.